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Kid Swearing Cursing
Just because society has begun to accept swearing doesn't mean parents have to do the same. Here are some tips to keep cursing under control.

Kid Swearing CursingSwearing has gone mainstream. TV shows, movies, video games, and popular music share the blame as does loosening standards among adults. While many adults used to censor themselves for the sake of small ears, swearing has become so common that many don’t think twice about letting a few foul words drop while in the presence of wee ones.

Just because society has begun to accept swearing doesn’t mean parents have to do the same. You can curb your child’s use of bad words in several different ways:

  • Enact a rule simply stating that swearing is not acceptable in your household.
  • Be consistent. If your children swear, hand out consequences. Send them to their room or take away a privilege. Washing their mouths out with soap is NOT recommended nor is putting something hot or disgusting in their mouths or on their tongues.
  • If your children are angry about a situation, encourage them to talk about it without swearing. If that’s impossible, send them to their room to calm down until they can talk without swearing.
  • Realize that you can’t control how your children talk with their friends in private. They may follow your rules at home but fall into bad language while hanging out with friends.

Finally, look at your own use of language. You can hardly expect your child not to cuss if such words are a regular part of your own vocabulary. If you show your child that you’re making a sincere attempt to clean up your own language, you’ll set a powerful example for your child to follow.

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  • Great tips! It’s crazy to think how mainstream it’s become, but it’s true.
    Something we do is create words to say instead, and they end up being funny. So instead of “OH, %$*#!” we’ll say “Oh, crunchy BISCUITS!” And what’s more, if we’re out in public, people will think we’re really weird, but it’s funny and gets the kids laughing instead of using foul language. Think about someone stubbing their toe on a tree or something and instead of saying Mother F*&$#er, they say “Fluffer Nutter!” It just brings a smile to your face. =0)

  • Brittany

    Good tips. I would also add teaching children that just because some people do things doesn’t mean that they should too. My husband swears without realizing it on a daily basis. Thankfully my 4yo must know that whatever words my husband says when he is angry are not to be repeated.

  • brett

    holy cow I know! its EVERYWHERE!! I remember they wouldn’t even say breast’ on soap operas back in the day. I was sick in bed for 6 days last week and watched 2 episodes of old soaps- counted 42 words that were said I KNOW weren’t used when I was younger. crazy!

  • These are awesome tips for teaching children to stay on the right track with bad language habits.I think it’s a good idea to be strict about it without being mean.They have to learn that quite often this kind of language is used by the inebriated, the mean and the ignorant for lack of trying to use good language.

  • Sandra Beeman

    I agree that parents should set the standard for acceptable language in the home. Hopefully, it will carry-over to in public as well. I have personally known parents whom do not curb their language and end-up with beautiful little children with very offensive vocabulary.

  • Shannon

    I think the problem here is a lot of parents curse in front of the children and they pick it up in most cases that I have observed.

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